On the rocks, divorce in Spain and domestic violence

On the rocks, divorce in Spain and domestic violence

BY NICK SNELLING

Spain now has one of the highest rates of divorce in Europe with 1 in 2.3 marriages ending in divorce.  This equates to a marital break-up every 3.7 minutes.  To make matters worse, Spain has a shocking domestic violence problem, which yet again came to a head when four women were killed by their partners on ‘Black Tuesday’ (26th February 2008).  This brought to 17, the number of women murdered by their partners by the end of February 2008 setting that year firmly on target to exceed the horrors of previous years.  Clearly, seismic changes are dangerously vibrating through Spanish society.

In fact, it is not surprising that tremendous pressures have been placed upon the old-fashioned, family values normally associated with Spain.  Suppressed by the long, deeply conservative dictatorship of Franco (1939 – 1975), Spain remained in a time-lock throughout the heady decades of North European liberalism between the 1960s and 1980s.  Flower power, the Pill, mobility of population and the sexual and social revolution of the First World largely bypassed Spain.  Indeed, until 1981 it was not even possible to get divorced legally

Suddenly, in 1978, Spain established a secular constitution on lines similar to the rest of democratic northern Europe.  This propelled the country into new uncertainties as previously unconscionable freedom and liberality were allowed.  This was enhanced by unimaginable wealth as the country dramatically accelerated from its position as thirteenth biggest economy in the world in 1973 to its present position as eighth.  All of a sudden, it divorce in Spain was possible, homosexuality was tolerated, incomes rose, personal expenditure increased and the equality of women became, at least in theory, acceptable.

However, these changes have produced considerable social friction.  Deep down, much of Spain is still a conservative, patriarchal society with close-knit and often immobile communities.  It has, therefore, come as a shock for the Spanish male, in particular, to find that not only does his wife or partner have to work, due to rising living costs, but that she expects equality as well.  For the first time in Spanish history, women have real independence.  Or at least the illusion of it.  They are as well educated as men, earn their own incomes and can divorce as they see fit.

Certainly, the present PSOE government under Zapatero has presided over a country that has become one of the most liberal in Europe.  Homosexuals have been granted the same rights as heterosexuals and a controversial ‘express divorce law’ was passed in 2006 making divorce quick and easy.  Indeed, it is now possible to divorce in Spain after three months of marriage with no evidence of blame required.  You can even secure an uncontested divorce for under 600 Euros using the internet (www.divorcioexpress.com)

The ease with which divorce in Spain is possible has shocked the establishment, which has seen a rise in the divorce rate of 277% between 2001–2006.  This drove Eduardo Hertfelder of the Institute of Family Policy to state that this was ‘…authentic social suicide…’  Meanwhile, Benigno Blanco, president of the Spanish Forum for the Family, now likens the current marriage contract to ‘trash’.  Without doubt, the traditional building blocks of society and their time-honoured certainties have been dismantled in a very short time indeed.

Exacerbating existing social problems are the major headaches of immigration and a severely troubled economy.  These are impacting upon personal relationships by placing further stress upon family life and relationships.  Permissive immigration controls have allowed an explosion of immigrants over the past six years, with the Red Cross World Disasters Report (2006) claiming that immigrants now make up 11% of the total population.  This is changing the very nature of many urban areas, particularly coastal towns, and placing incredible stress upon a creaking infrastructure.  Many schools and medical centres are now overwhelmed, creating increasing friction and discontent amongst the native Spanish.

Meanwhile, the purchasing power of the Spanish salary has barely changed since 1997, whilst living costs have risen enormously along with the prices of property.  Mortgage rates have nearly doubled and household debt in 2006 was 110% of disposable income.  With few matters creating greater stress upon a relationship than financial difficulties, the high rate of divorce and domestic violence is likely to continue.  Indeed, the current property crash will have ominous implications for already hard pressed families.  The EU expect a 3.7% rise in the cost of living in 2008 and FUNCAS (The Spanish Savings Bank Foundation) are predicting that the economy will only grow by 2.5% in 2008 and be accompanied by considerable unemployment.  Frighteningly, according to the CIA World Factbook (2007), Spain also has the 162nd worst current account balance in the world (one factor worse than the UK!).

To their credit, in 2005, the PSOE government under Zapertero passed a law for Comprehensive Protection Against Domestic Violence in an effort to deal with abusive relationships.  27 specialist courthouses (Courts for Violence against Women) with significant protective powers have been set up throughout Spain.  However, deaths due to domestic violence have actually increased from 68 in 2006 to 71 in 2007 together with a significant rise in complaints.

Of course, making effective complaints against abusive partners easier, and the courts more responsive, is bound to bring to light domestic violence that had previously been concealed.  Nonetheless, there is certainly anecdotal evidence to suggest that domestic violence remains significant and may rise.  This appears to be, in part, due to the large number of immigrant families now living in Spain, many of whom live in appalling conditions whilst undertaking the least desirable, poorest paid and hardest work in the country.  As the effects of the recession in Spain starts to bite and immigrants find work ever more difficult to obtain, it is quite possible that the appalling tragedies of domestic violence and marital breakup will become worse.

To some extent, Spain´s social problems can be put down to the ´growing pains´ of a country that has evolved radically in a very short period of time.  Those changes have brought tremendous advantages and improvements but also real stress to a Spanish population and lifestyle that had been largely unchanged for centuries.  The question, now, is whether Spain can come to terms with the dynamics and stress induced by the past few years – whilst retaining a workable and family friendly, nuclear society.

TIMELINE

– DIVORCE IN SPAIN AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE –

 
1931               Women granted the vote
1981               Right to divorce
2005              Law against domestic violence enacted (setting up 27 courts and protection rights)
Law granting equal rights to homosexuals
3 month amnesty for immigrants in Spain
2006               ‘Express’ divorce law enacted – no blame and divorce possible after three months

THE FRONTLINE

Sandra Pascual Tomas is a petite and very elegant divorce lawyer in her mid thirties with bright, intelligent eyes.  She is a picture of calmness, which is complemented by her offices (Centre de Mediacio Familiar Iure) in Gandia.  These are modern and painted in soft pastel colours.  One room has been set aside as a play area for small children and has an array of toys, whilst the conference room has a deliberately relaxed ambience.  Sandra works with her partner (Rosa Gomez Torres) and she speaks in well-modulated, thoughtful tones.

“Of course, the divorce rate is high in Spain.  Our country is facing a crisis of values as we feel the full force of globalisation.  This is producing, in a very short time, an increasingly dysfunctional society.  Not least, the traditional roles of men and women within a relationship have changed – radically altering the dynamics of family life.  This has been accompanied by increasing financial stress and the very real difficulties faced by young couples trying to afford to rent or buy a property together.

In about 70% of cases, it is the woman who starts divorce proceedings with, in our experience, 80% of men already seeing another woman.  Often, the first divorce is very traumatic but this is generally followed by a more successful second marriage.  However, sadly, about 30% of divorced men fail to see their children after the formal separation.

Domestic violence is certainly an horrendous problem but it is most common within immigrant families.  Nonetheless, it is symptomatic of men´s reluctance to change and is a tragic sign of our increasingly stressed society”.

QUOTES

Upon taking office in 2004, Zapertero launched a crusade against domestic violence stating that it was Spain’s ‘worst shame’ and an ‘unacceptable evil’

In 2004 Zapatero made equality of the sexes an ‘emblematic task’ and made a woman (Maria Teresa de la Vega) Spain’s first deputy prime minister, whilst giving 8 out of 16 cabinet posts to women.

Between 2000 – 2007 509 women were killed in domestic violence incidents.

Dr Maria Soriano (Pedriatician in Valencia Province) “Five years ago, about 6 of the 40 patients I saw daily were foreign – now that number is 20.  Increasingly, I see deeply stressed families many living in real poverty and financial uncertainty.”

According to the Instituto Nacional de Estatistica working Spanish women earn on average 29% less than men.

BY NICK SNELLING

(Noms de plume: Alexander Peters, Elena Suarez, Alberto Diaz)

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